Your Çhild & Sex Education

We all know †ђά̲̣̥† †ђξ society is becoming less friendly to children. Pedophiles have become more rampant. Even some parents d☺n’t know where to draw †ђξ line as they also abuse their own little ones. Helpers(drivers,househelps, teachers, and more), schools and relatives play games you remain unaware of with them and while they try to inform you, you are too busy to listen, talk to them or even find out what has been going out in their little lives. You may be disturbingly surprised.
Many parents cannot for †ђξ life of them talk to their little ones about Sex Education, forgetting †ђά̲̣̥† if you dont, †ђξ society would do it for you and none too pleasantly if I might add.
Just a few admonitions to help you on your way.
Warn your Daughter/Son never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles and fathers after a certain Age. Unfortunately, some men cannot control their urges and even at †ђξ softest touch, become aroused not considering †ђά̲̣̥† †ђξ child isn’t meant for †ђά̲̣̥†. Others have problems in †ђξ regular lives and cannot approach †ђξ opposite sex and so
‘Your Child’ is †ђξ nearest and most available victim around to quench their hunger.
I maintain †ђά̲̣̥† a child should begin to learn about Sex Education †ђξ moment they can speak, first about †ђξ parts of their body.

Try to avoid getting dressed in front of your child once especially of †ђξ opposite sex, for some children it affects them negatively while some become un-fazed and so †ђξ urge to be abusers themselves is removed. Find out which works for you or learn to excuse yourself.

-If you have to hire a helper, maid or nanny, please kindly take them for HIV screening to determine their HIV status,
properly interview them and make up your mind to treat them well. Some of these people may treat your child or ward †ђξ same way you treat them just so you know it is transferred aggression and you are to blame entirey for this. Remember they spend more time with your little ones.

-Never allow any adult refer to your new born as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’ caressing them too. You may be not know †ђά̲̣̥† †ђξ signs †ђά̲̣̥† a child is being abused are always shown to †ђξ parents but they wave it off as just a ‘friendly adult’
Or later on be faced with “its the devil’s fault” statement.

-Avoid unnecessary play even with your husband(mostly men who abuse their children). Wife make sure you take care of your husband in †ђξ bedroom area lest you lead him into temptation.

-Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they played together because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

-Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult. †ђξ friendly adult may have begun designs on your little one. Some begin with offering little treats to encourage them to visit and come alone. Be careful keep your eyes on your child. Never be too busy to enquire ♓☺w their little lives went.

-Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you need to be patient, ask questions from your child and be gentle about it. D☺n’t hit your child because they are not forthcoming. †ђξ abuser usually makes them scared by telling them someone would loose their life or worse they themselves. They believe it because they are most times brain washed.

-If you don’t teach your children about sex, the society will teach them the wrong values and you just might bring up an abuser yourself.

-It is always advisable you go through any new material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves. Many cartoons now have pornography in them, while some have a l☺t of violence. Sometimes try to sit and watch with them, playing with your children can be very revealing.

-Teach your 2year olds how to wash their private parts and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas. Gradually learn to withdraw your touching them in these regions once they understand †ђξ process and clean up well(remember, charity begins at home and with you)DO IT YOURSELF.

-What you say or do in front of your child is very important. Children are like sponges, they absorb and soak in all you and people around them say. Very essential you expose them to †ђξ ‘right movies, music and play letting them know why †ђξ other is wrong.

-Once your child complains about a particular person,don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them always! Be careful in this regard, some children can be very precarious and like to cause a ruckus. Learn to know †ђξ difference.

Let them know they can trust you it is important or they would look for someone who they feel they can trust and it just might lead to abuse.

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OCEAN SURGE!! Ocean Surge!!

..Wise men say “Only fools rush in”. Song by a known artist
†ђξ ‘Wise’ know better and do things †ђξ right way, or so it seems »Scorptastic

Nigerians are very funny, die hard human beings and I must commend every single one of for †ђά̲̣̥†. You see the resilience and stubborn attitude, make it easy to survive †ђξ storm, stick through thick and thin of major problems; after all their country’s problems is enough to make people Tough.

When many ‘Nigerians’ hear of occurrences like ‘Hurricane Katrina’ & Tornadoes in US, ‘Bush Fires in Australia’, ‘Tsunami’ and o†her natural disasters happening in various parts of †ђξ world, it is seen as pretty far fetched and something †ђά̲̣̥† cannot happen in Nigeria.
People delude themselves with †ђξ fact †ђά̲̣̥† Nigerians are very religious in nature, 9 in 10 people go to church and mosque every second with various conventions happening everywhere and all of that.

I often wonder if somehow, by some stroke of luck because of this †ђά̲̣̥† we are spared from all these major disasters as there is no preparation made to accommodate any natural disaster of any magnitude and †ђξ problems our Government bring are enough to contend with as disasters on their own. Government officials delude themselves with †ђξ fact †ђά̲̣̥† their private jets can carry them to US and UK or where ever were disaster to occurs in Nigeria, leaving †ђξ masses to their own devices. Unfortunately for them(†ђξ government officials), this would have been effectively executed if †ђξ natural disasters weren’t occurring Globally.

Recently on Traffic Radio 96.1Fm, there was a major announcement of Ocean surge occurring here in Lagos, Nigeria. Many who heard it felt it was a joke, but some of †ђξ few who took it serious probably felt it would be a one day occurrence or something of †ђά̲̣̥† sort. If it were in other societies, it would be taken seriously, evacuations would begin in earnest and lots of research would go into it(but trust Naija people not to take it very seriously).

Tђξ attitude we get is “NO NO NO, in Nigeria, ‘whatever’ jare, it can’t happen to me. Its only those who enter †ђξ water †ђά̲̣̥† would be affected”, ‘STUPID GOAT’ I say (˘̯˘ ) ♓☺w on earth can people be so indifferent?? Or so ‘Wise’ as †ђξ case may be.

A few days ago( 2days after †ђξ announcement), †ђξ Moslems had a holiday and in honor of it, †ђξ government declared a public holiday. Some actors(almost all Nigerians can be Actors) decided to visit †ђξ beach, you would at least think they would be careful right? Well †ђά̲̣̥† was not †ђξ case as some ‘James Bond’ characters decided to either swim with †ђξ fish or get very wet and according to †ђξ media, about 16 people(mothers and children mostly) were swallowed by †ђξ ocean. Tђξ ocean Surge has just begun and one can only hope to be in †ђξ right place at †ђξ right time. I was not a witness to this and while trying not to be judgmental, I know †ђά̲̣̥† even fast and experienced swimmers still should not dare †ђξ Expanse and turbulence of †ђξ Ocean. Only if you have no choice should you jump in; †ђά̲̣̥† is why there are swimming pools available.

A #fact# In Lagos when †ђξ water is extremely turbulent there is a Red Flag placed in †ђξ water telling people its not safe to go in and should be respected.

Unlike countries where †ђξ water is clear blue or bluish-green, †ђξ water on Nigerian Beaches is brownish in color, so I as much as I l☺ve †ђξ beach and l☺ve visiting it, i d☺n’t see what †ђξ attraction to swim in Nigerian sea water is as I can only put my feet in it. †ђξ beach side is very dirty, there is refuse littered everywhere and sometimes glass; there are NO PROPER LIFEGUARDS as far as I can see, emergency services placed around or even rescue boats to help search for people within even hours of been carried by †ђξ water.
As a child, I was almost swept away by †ђξ ocean even though I was being held by an adult, luckily I was grabbed before †ђξ Ocean could gobble me up.
So my question remains this; Why would you be a James Bond character and waste your life by going into †ђξ water when you know †ђά̲̣̥† it would not hinder others from having fun in †ђά̲̣̥† exact spot few minutes after you are gone??.
For those living on †ђξ Island, well all I can say is this, †ЂΞ OCEAN SURGE is real and happening everywhere, water levels are rising world wide so please stay safe and have options of places not close too close to †ђξ sea †ђά̲̣̥† you can stay. Lots of people have predicted †ђξ disasters †ђά̲̣̥† are to happen and they’re happening
NOW.

Don’t be indifferent, BE AWARE, BE OBSERVANT!! Do your own research! You can read on Nostrodamus prophecies or books like ‘ When †ђξ Comet Runs’ you would sure find them revealing..

I hope you all stay safe 😀 and live till its TIME( †ђξ right time to pass on) ITS HAPPENING AGAIN People another hurricane in †ђξ US. Lord save our souls. †ђξ time to RUSH is NOW

By scorptastic Posted in Home

This thing called Love

I have often wondered that marriage wasn’t for the faint hearted but strong minded. Staying Married for those with extremely strong hearts……                        

When two people meet, like each other, and start a relationship most times it is for the purpose of friendship, sex, money and or companionship.

In recent times sex and money play the ultimate role as the major things been sought by both parties. Gone are the things that are supposed to make the relationship stronger, for every hurt comes experience and with it knowledge.

Most men have Egos so big it would take a tractor to deflate and women look for the superficial in their relationships (fat bank accounts, flashy cars and nice house to top the list) missing the obvious and more important factors. The time when couples worked hard together to make things better and start a family bond stronger than any other is long gone.  No one here says the man shouldn’t be the provider of the family but women work with your men here he cannot do it all alone even if you are a house wife.

Let me site an example before I begin my main story. In a family where the husband is the sole breadwinner, caters to their every need of the family including house cleaning, the wife is a housewife.  Now, the wife stays home all day doing nothing, the maid helps her with everything else needed like cooking of breakfast and dinner including care of the children who already attend schools, the driver takes the children to school and back (while being very badly behaved and not properly trained), the husband gets home after close of work around 7pm the wife is sleeping and there is no food on the table. The wife instructs the maid not to begin to prepare dinner till 9pm, while the food tastes like shit.  How does this trend start?? Woman, why be so lazy??

Let me site an example of a beginning, Dipo and Temi meet at the club, they start dating and things begin to develop from there. They begin to meet more frequently and one thing leads to another Temi gets pregnant but says to Dipo, abortion is not an option. Dipo says “I am not ready to be tied down in marriage yet” but thinks well we have fun together and great sex why not. After a while they come to an agreement, it’s time for a meeting of the families and marriage preparations begin in earnest.

Temi’s friends say to her “wow, you are so lucky to have such a catch” and she goes all blushing and smiling. Dipo’s friends, some say “seems our young man has been caught by the Love spell going around” and one sensible one asks “Dipo are you sure you wanna do this?? Im just asking cos you don’t seem ready to me, but don’t let me be a party pooper. Congratulations man”

The couple to be hardly has time to see each other during the preparations as the families want them to be united before the baby comes along. The questions that needed to be asked have been forgotten or skipped. The usually observant and careful mothers resort to making sure the Aso-Ebi(materials to be worn by family and friends) is in the right color, order and enough quantity. They wanna bear the title Grandma before they can even see the pregnancy reaches full term.

When the dotted lines are signed, the baby comes, there is no time for honeymoon or the couple getting to know themselves and all the hidden traits come to the fore.

They realize this thing called Love was never in the picture. What happens then?? Most couples especially in the Africans may still try to work it out but that is fast becoming a thing of the past as divorce rates are on the rise.

Must many lives be ruined before the gross error becomes glaring??

take time to see the little things in that person, those are the things that count

TROUBLED WATERS 2

dont ever underestimate your potentials for a task, you just might suprise yourself’…. scorptastic

 

“How dare you talk to your father like that? How dare you? After all he has done for you, you have the audacity to be rude? “ Adora stood up and faced them both and through clenched teeth she said “HE IS NOT MY FATHER”, turning to Dapo she said “he is none of your business and I don’t owe you an explanation” as she stormed off to her room and slammed the door. “I’m so sorry Sweetheart, let me go and talk to her. What sort of rubbish is this, I would not have her being rude to you”, as she ran up the stairs to Adora’s room. Opening Adora’s room, she met her daughter crying profusely on the bed. She realized how much Adora was like her in many ways, and how very stubborn she was at that age. Wondering why the sudden change had come over Adora had given her sleepless nights because her daughter had never behaved that way in the past. For a child who never liked being alone from her mother for long, it was a surprise when Adora had asked to go to boarding school but Dapo had objected vehemently, saying they should work at being a family. Thinking her daughter would have adjusted better if she spent lesser time around husband at least with the hope that gradually she would learn to accept him like a father. But she didn’t win many arguments with Dapo so she had put it to rest for a while till it reared its ugly head again like a beast. Adora’s father Jide, was the first guy she ever thought she loved and he had told her he loved her till she had gotten pregnant, then he fled when he heard. Her father, a high ranking military official had thrown her out to cater for herself and baby. Her daughter had been a good sport all through, never complaining about anything. Why now that things were better and they had almost everything going for them was she revolting? Was it selfishness, the fact that she had to share her mother’s time with three other people or what? Shaking herself out of the reminiscing she said “Adora, Adora, why are you trying to ruin my marriage?” Sniffing she replied, “So you think I am trying to ruin what you have, is that it? It is not working for me and I am sorry for being here. Do you even talk to me anymore? No. Dapo this, Dapo that. Please just let me go to my own father”. “Adora honey, I love you and I am sorry but I have to put my husband first. You are making it hard for us to be a family and Dapo is doing his best to behave like a father to you, taking care of you, sending you to school and giving you a better life” “NO, NO, NO, you have no idea mum”, with a crazy laugh, she said “He hates me and I feel the same. I can never like him and he is not my family. I love the twins and can do anything for those innocent two but I want to go to my own father, PERIOD” Standing up from beside her daughter on the bed, Cassandra said “You would stay here, you hear me? Your father has no money and cannot take care of you. This is the very last time I want to hear about this topic from you”, as she walked towards the door. “Of course go, go run and report me to your Dapo so that he can punish me for my sins after all that is what he does best” Turning around, her mother said “What do you mean by that? How dare you say that? It’s for your own discipline, fathers discipline their daughters and …… “Stop Cas”, Dapo said, let me talk to her. Alone?” Dapo said as he walked in on them. “No, No mum please”, she cried,” it is fine I would go look for my father since you don’t want me after all. That is what this is about”. “Cassandra, leave us please”, Dapo said with a slight scowl. Cassandra nodded as she walked out of the room, looking back once at her daughter and shook her head. CHAPTER TWO “Hurry up Adora, you are going to be late, it is already 6:30am”, Cassandra said. Quietly, Adora walked down the stairs carefully avoiding her mother’s gaze, she picked up her food bag and headed for the door. “Good morning sister Adora”, Bisola and Tobi said in unison. “Good morning Tobi, Bisola”, she said “What happened to your face?” Bisola asked “I fell dear”, Adora said “Let me see that”, Cassandra said, trying to touch Adora’s face. “Don’t you touch me”, Adora said through clenched teeth and she went outside with the twins to the car where the driver was waiting. Cassandra sat heavily on a chair in the kitchen trying to comprehend the statement her daughter had made. She knew her daughter had definitely not fallen down but she thought to herself ‘Dapo couldn’t have hit her Adora or could he have done such a despicable thing?’ “Morning sweetheart”, Dapo kissed her on the head, momentarily disrupting her train of thought. ‘He can’t have……..’ she thought, looking into his beautiful smile and happy face. Shaking her head and smiling at her husband, to clear the matter from it promising to revisit it at some later time. Remembering the first time she had seen scars on her daughter had been when Adora was twelve years old. While Adora had claimed Dapo had beaten her up he had told her Adora had feigned it just to create a distance between them. She made a mental note to think of it later, with a smile she served her husband’s food while the doubtful thoughts clogged her stomach and she pushed her plate away. “Sandra Achumba”, the teacher said marking the class register. “Present Sir” “Kayode Lawson” “Present SIr“ “Tunde Presely? The teacher said looking around the class. “Right here!”replied the precocious young man . “You said WHATT?”, the teacher exclaimed, adjusting his spectacles as some of the students chuckled. “Present Sir” “Amanda Afolabi?”, said Mr Alabi with a bit of relief before looking up at the murmuring of some of the students He heard a timid “present sir” and looked critically at one of the most brilliant students in his class. Noticing scars on her face, he exclaimed “what happened to you Amanda? Did you fall? No, No….. Have you seen a Doctor?” Without waiting to hear a proper response over the students loud whispers he said “to the infirmary NOW, young lady” peering out of his spectacles. Standing cautiously and wincing in the process, she tried to remain insignificant as she bowed her head and walked out of the class but not before hearing Toyosi saying “she must have fallen down the stairs again. She is so clumsy” Exiting the class, Amanda wondered about the other comments that she wasn’t going to hear. She blocked them out of her mind she walked down the hall. On hearing footsteps approaching, she hurried down the stair case towards the infirmary. “Amanda! Gosh! Sit down, what happened to you?” “Lie down dear let me examine you” Nurse Titi said “You can’t give me that ‘I fell down story’ you gave the last time, because I recommended you might need glasses and sent you for an eye test. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your eyes young lady” Amanda kept her head facing the ground with her hands between her legs. “Let me get you some pain killers first of all”, handing them to Amanda, she noticed the tears falling freely from her face whilst sobs escaped from the little lips. She held Amanda close in her arms while they both cried together, as she knew the little girl was hurting but there wasn’t much she could do to help. Until she knew what was going on, she could only console her and hold her close. She knew from her little research that Amanda, she had heard that her father was not involved in her upkeep, but in a school for the rich peoples children like theirs a lot was to be expected and not too many questions were asked of these people if one was to retain their job. She had seen lots of things go wrong with so many children especially in her line of her work but Amanda’s case was unique to her bringing a feeling of dejavu rushing through her. She had her own burdens which she was still shedding off, as there was still a long road left for the healing process to be completed, but she did try. A million questions ran through Amanda’s head, ‘Could she trust Nurse Titi? What if the school called her mother or Dapo? Should she tell her mother? Would her mother believe her? What if she dint tell and something happened to her?

 

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Stop Abusing Children

It is sad, when people go out of their way to have children, yet do not take proper care of them. Worse still is when they abuse their own children, unfortunately this young lady was abused as a child and still being abused all because of Albinism. Please my candid advice, d☺n’t bear children if you can’t cater to them #fact# not all adults or couples deserve to have children

HELP! I AM AN UNWANTED CHILD,ABUSED AND ABANDONED

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